The Internet Saved My Social Life

I’ve always had trouble making friends.  It’s not that I’m frequently getting into arguments or anything like that, it’s just that I am particular with the people I surround myself with.  There are two main areas that I have always struggled with.  First, I don’t enjoy spending time with women who are catty or dramatic.  This is rather difficult for me to find.  Second, I tend to gravitate toward girls who do not put energy into our relationship.  It really hurts when I’m the only one who ever tries to make plans.  I’ve had a handful of friends in my life that do not fall into either one of these categories, but hey, quality over quantity! The point of this post is not to whine, but rather to discuss how common it is for women to struggle making friends.  Though I believe this topic deserves more attention, it is rarely examined.  Junior high embedded within us a deep desire to be popular or to at least pretend to be.  Somehow in our 20s and 30s this instinct is still with us.  I can’t tell you why it is so hard to find good friends, but I can tell you that is a common concern and you don’t need to feel embarrassed talking about it. Here’s where social media comes in.  I am incredibly thankful for the relationships I have built through my Instagram.  I feel as though social media allows us to connect with amazing people who we never would have been able to meet otherwise.  Plus, it is a fantastic way for people who have anxiety, have difficulty in social situations, or are introverted (like me!) to be able to socialize in a comfortable and safe-feeling way.  Even if I may not have a lot of “real life” friends, I feel so enriched by the relationships that I have online. xoxox Emily Bodycon dress by American Apparel, heels by J. Crew